THE DYNAMICS AND PRACTICALITIES OF MALE CHASTITY
Why do men want to have their cock controlled and locked out of reach?
- To be controlled by another person (maybe as part of a wider sub/dom relationship)
- To reduce their wanking so they have more energy and interest in playing with others
- To increase quality of orgasms
- To maintain a level of horniness and arousal that isn’t dissipated by cumming
- Because It gives them sexual or emotional pleasure
- To be “emasculated”
- As a sign of commitment/fidelity
Why do tops/doms want to lock others?
- As part of a sub/dom control situation
- So the locked guy has more energy and interest in playing with them
- As a service (there’s always more subs around than keyholders)
- As a punishment
- As a sign of commitment/fidelity
- Because It gives them sexual or emotional pleasure
- Self control
What’s the best way of achieving this?
- A well-fitting robust chastity device that can be left in place for extended periods without the need for removal
- A device he can’t cum in
- Keeping the keys well out of reach
The ins and outs of being a keyholder
- Keyholder responsibilities
- Agree the terms of the lock-up In terms of duration etc in advance and stick to it
- Maintain regular contact with your locked guys
- Appreciate he may have other constraints (job, partner, travel)
- Always be safe, sane and consensual
- Making sure the locked guy really is locked
- Take the key away completely (but think about emergencies)
- Combination key safes (not combination locks)
- Numbered tags (but preferably not on the device)
- Keys in tamper-evident packages
- Regular evidence on cam/in person
- Anti-pull out devices
- Keeping him aroused and on edge so it doesn’t get boring for either of you
- Chat to him and tell him how much sexual pleasure you are having, tease him
- Get him to watch porn or read stories
- Play with him and/or have him play with others
- Edging and other self-play while locked (maybe on cam) with tit and arse toys for example
- Take care of your body and your device
- Be honest about any lapses
- Stick to the agreement
- Keep in contact with your keyholder and give them feedback
Practical considerations
- Hygiene
- General cleaning, urine flow, foreskins
- Anal hygiene for full belts
- Problems
- Irritation, chafing, sores
- Travel and security screening
True or false?
- There’s no such thing as a device which is guaranteed to prevent orgasms
- Lack of orgasms increases the risk of prostate disease
Learning about chastity
- Learn about chastity devices. It always helps if a keyholder has tried on chastity devices
- Get advice and support (for both keyholders and locked guys) from others with experience
- www.lockedmen.net is a large online community of locked guys and male keyholders. It has links to an extensive list of suppliers, a busy forum full of advice and experiences, live chat and galleries of profiles with photos
- Self-locking is very common
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